make peace on the inside with the key people in your life
I have saved the best for last. This final one is the most meaningful to me, and it’s the one that will bring you the most health.
Your core relationships: they go up, they go down, and they go side-to-side. Translated that means your bonds with your parents, your kids, and your spouse. Your physical health springs from the health of these relationships.
There’s something about those family relationships that etch us on the inside, giving us a fate that steers the direction of our health. These core relationships, they make us or break us (if we don’t work on them). Our core relationships have high influence on our emotional selves, and we can not separate our physical selves from our emotional selves. Core relationships are labeled “core” because that is exactly where they imprint us: at the core.
This is the stuff everyone likes to avoid, and a lot of people also have no idea how much these relationships have impacted them. So there’s this avoidance AND a lack of awareness. I think it’s a mixture of both of these things that cause us to think our physical health is one dimensional. We like to think that our childhood relationship with our father has nothing to do with our chronic neck pain. But it’s all connected. We can’t cut off our core relationships from affecting our health. Why? Because many times the damage done in a core relationship whispers a message to our inner self that we are defective in some way. We fall for that message. We believe it because it’s, well, a core relationship. And then our body, she follows what the mind believes.
Strengthening your core relationships looks different for everybody, and it varies depending on the relationship. Working on a relationship with your deceased parents will look very different than that of your living child. It kind of seems weird, strengthening a relationship when the other person isn’t around anymore. You can ask yourself, how has this relationship impacted who I am? Was there an overarching message from this relationship that impacted me in a positive or negative way? What was the message from the relationship?
For those still in your life, it may be very well worth your time to explore the messages you are getting and giving in your core relationships. Actions speak louder than words. You can say “I love you” with your lips, but what are your actions saying? Does your schedule say, “you’re not worth my time”?
The best way to strengthen these relationships is to heal them from the inside out. What is it inside of you that makes you pass up in person time with your mom? Why do you always flip at your husband when dirty dishes are all over the kitchen? What is there, deep in there, I’m pointing right at that? What is it inside your heart that is affecting your behavior in the core relationship? I encourage you to investigate these things. If it’s too difficult to do this alone, find help from a friend, a pastor, a spiritual leader, or a professional.
Healthy core relationships that give a positive message about who you are enables your body to function as intended. Love is powerful medicine.
How have you seen your physical health change after working on these relationships?
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