8 Tips for a Successful Toddler Blood Draw
turning a scary experience into a day at the ice cream shop
Last week, my 3 year old daughter needed her blood drawn in order to run some laboratory tests. Because my first childhood needle experience was more like a horror scene with 4 nurses, a doctor, and my mom holding me down, I turned into OCD zombie mode in figuring out how I was going to handle every single detail of this experience. I wanted to prepare her in the best way possible, without mentally freaking her out, which is completely possible to do in a toddler brain.
1. Find a kid savvy phlebotomy lab.
The most important factor to consider for this process is the location where you will have your toddler’s blood drawn. My daughter’s pediatrician recommended that we go to Seattle Children’s Hospital, where the phlebotomists draw blood on kids all day long. So that’s what we did. You want a phlebotomist that draws blood from the tiniest veins, every single day. The more skilled the person is at drawing blood on little kids, the less likely your toddler will have to be poked multiple times. Not only that, these people are experienced in dealing with screaming, kicking, squirming kids.
The other factor in using a kid savvy phlebotomy lab, especially one in a children’s hospital, is that every detail from the decoration to the toys to the furniture is intentionally geared towards children. With all of the whale and dolphin decor on the 6th floor of the Seattle Children’s Hospital, there’s no question that time and planning went into every detail with a smiling kid in mind. A fish tank dazzled the waiting room near the lab, which housed several clown fish as well as a friendly crab, making the waiting room feel like an aquatic field trip.
2. Calm Down.
Your toddler internalizes your emotions, so calm down. If you are anxious, he will be, too. If you are calm, he’ll be chill, too. Genuine calmness on your part gives your toddler the emotional assurance that everything is really going to be OK. I was able to remain calm for my daughter, out of the motivation that I wanted her to sense my peace. Toddlers are not emotional dummies. They easily pick up on the tension you feel.
3. Bring a friend.
I invited a friend to come with us. I am the one who needed the extra support, so she mainly served as an emotional buffer for me to remain calm. But my friend also functioned as a distractor for my daughter to look at during the procedure. A smiling auntie is much more fun to look at than the wall.
I also had my 10 month old baby in tow. My friend held the baby while I held my toddler. Do not bring other siblings to the blood draw if you do not have another adult with you. Your toddler needs your 100% attention during this procedure.
4. Talk about the tourniquet.
The tourniquet is that thick piece of rubber that gets tied so tight around your arm that it feels like no one is going to get any blood out because your arm is going to fall off. This procedure seems harmless to an adult because no needles are involved, but it can be super scary for a child. Everyone seems to tell their child about the needle “pinching”, but they forget to talk about the tourniquet. The tourniquet hurts and it’s uncomfortable. Sometimes the pain from the tourniquet is worse than the little poke from the needle.
I do recommend to talk about the tourniquet with your child in advance. I tried so hard to come up with some imaginative way to describe the tourniquet that would make it sound appealing to my 3 year old daughter. One of my ideas was a friendly snake that had a hugging problem. After telling this idea to my friends, their looks of shock and gasping words of caution exposed how scary the tourniquet would be if it were a pretend snake (my daughter likes snakes though).
I ended up telling her that a really biiiiggg rubber band was going to be tied tight around her arm, but that it would only stay there for a little bit. I told her that the biiiggg rubber band needed to be there for them to get the blood out. I said, “It doesn’t feel very nice but it won’t be long.”
It is actually the tourniquet that totally freaked me out during my first childhood needle experience.
5. Use prudence when talking about the needle in advance.
Because my daughter is 3, and not 6, I never mentioned the needle. I didn’t even say the word “shot” (she knows what they are), or “pinch”, or “owie” during our prep talks for this procedure. I didn’t even say any of these words immediately prior to the blood draw, and neither did the phlebotomist. One of my doctor friends told me that before med school, she never felt the needle go in after the tourniquet was on. Our focus was on the tourniquet in our preparatory discussions, and that is exactly what my daughter focused on. She squinted her eyes with a determination and seriousness when the phlebotomist tied on that tourniquet.
6. Hold your toddler during the procedure.
Your child will feel much more secure in your lap than sitting in a cold chair staring at you. Plus, you can hold her in such a way that minimizes movement if she does choose to squirm.
7. Plan a very appealing distractor.
As soon as that tourniquet went on, I pulled out our distractor (of course, I asked the phlebotomist in advance). Out of my purse came the shiniest little piece of sugar bribery: a raspberry blue ring pop full of toxic corn syrup and blue food coloring poison. My 3 year old daughter has never had one of these suckers before, let alone something that has toxic corn syrup and blue food coloring poison. I wanted a lollipop, or something like it, so that she could easily hold it with one hand, and be distracted orally with tooth rotting sweetness. I’m sure you can come up with a better idea than mine, but it worked well because my daughter almost never eats that stuff.
8. Plan a super fun event immediately after the draw.
You will probably think I’m such a sugar hypocrite to tell you that our super fun event after my daughter’s blood draw was a trip to Molly Moon’s. Well, the last time she was there, was a year ago. I think a once a year stop at the ice cream shop is just fine. Besides, people, Molly Moon’s makes vegan coconut milk ice cream and it’s delicious. If it weren’t for my severe reactive hypoglycemia, I would probably be treating myself there a lot more frequently than I do.
I told my 3 year old girl that after our blood draw, we were going to Molly Moon’s for ice cream. Well, this toddler was dressed and ready to go with her shoes on, standing at the door, waiting for me 30 minutes in advance. She wanted ice cream, badly, so she was ready to go get this blood draw so that we could go to Molly Moon’s. Plus, having my friend come along added an additional note of funness to the event, since my daughter just loves her. My daughter’s response to wanting to leave sure took the edge off my worry.
So how’d it go, right? Really well. The phlebotomist talked about the tourniquet before he put it on her. She concentrated on that tourniquet, loved the shiny blue ring pop, and didn’t even notice the needle when it entered her arm. “Is that my blood?”, she asked as she looked at the tube filling with red. When the phlebotomist was finished, he pulled out his ear plugs (worn for obvious reasons), and said, “Most kids don’t act like that!”
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Kathryn @ Mamacado
March 18th, 2013 at 11:45 am
Thank you for these tips. I used some of them with my toddler last week! I hope you don’t mind that I linked to this post on my latest blog post:
http://www.mamacado.com/2013/03/toddler-blood-test-how-we-did-it.html
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Dr. Archer
March 18th, 2013 at 12:27 pm
No problem. Thanks for sharing my link!
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Krimsen
May 22nd, 2013 at 9:09 pm
Thanks for this. Having 3 under 5 done soon – I’m pretty nervous. Will try this.
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R
April 17th, 2014 at 8:27 am
As a pediatric phlebotomist. Have confidence in us, listen and trust. If you don’t feel like we will get it, we probably won’t.
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Nadine
September 3rd, 2013 at 10:51 am
Thank you! your tips were very helpful! and put me at ease!
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Brooke
November 14th, 2013 at 8:45 am
Hi, I tried this with my daughter today. She’s 2, almost 3. It really helped. My only other advice would be to have the child drink a lot of water before the test. We went first thing in the morning and my daughter’s vein collapsed on the first test with only getting a little blood out. So, they had to stick her again in the other arm and it took a some time to get all of the viles filed. The tech said that water prior to the test would help with this. Thanks again for the advice!
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Dr. Archer Atkins
October 14th, 2016 at 8:39 pm
That is a good tip, Brooke. Being well hydrated definitely helps blood draws go more smoothly.
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Tiffany
February 17th, 2014 at 11:36 pm
Thanks for this! Did a quick search for tips before taking my four year old in today and found your advice. Helped a lot! Your advice about rubber band especially. And based on personal experience I totally agree with the other commenter about making sure you offer extra liquids.
In the end I was amazed at how much a lollipop and the cartoons on the lab’s tv distracted a normally very anxious child.
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Dr. Archer Atkins
October 14th, 2016 at 8:38 pm
Glad it helped, Tiffany!
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Leah
May 20th, 2014 at 3:30 pm
My 20 month old daughter had her blood drawn last Thursday to check her iron levels. She got a teddy bear and girl who drew the blood was really awesome with her and I think I stayed pretty calm. I was blown away that she watched calmly as she placed the tourniquet on her arm, she watched calmly as she put the needle in, she watched calmly as she pulled the vile out and put the bandaid on. Not a sound and she wasn’t distracted. I guess I wondered if this is normal or a sign of sensory processing disorder? I have an appointment in a few weeks for an autism screening due to this concern. Just wondering someone else’s thoughts.
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Sean
June 9th, 2015 at 3:00 pm
I am a male Phlebotomist in the Cayman Islands and these tips do work as I have used them in my every day work, keep up the good work.
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Dr. Archer Atkins
October 14th, 2016 at 8:37 pm
Thanks, Sean. Nice knowing they work well for you too!
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Nathan
January 17th, 2016 at 4:46 am
A three week old would get a heelstick. No tourniquet or needle would be involved.
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Dr. Archer Atkins
January 17th, 2016 at 9:58 am
The tips in this article are meant for toddlers, not infants.
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Natasha G
June 15th, 2016 at 4:41 pm
Had to take my 12 month old in for an allergy panel. It was his first actual blood draw and it was terrible! I held him in my lap, and had to hold his upper arm and wrist tightly to keep his arm perfect try straight. She tied the rubber band thing on both arms while looking for veins, then again once she’d found it. Then she put the needle in and moved it back and forth, in and out, sweeping around looking for the vein while he screamed and cried. It was horrible! After about a minute of that she withdrew and went to see of her coworker was back from lunch to hold him down in a different angle. Nope, so my mom came in to hold him, while I secured his arm (same arm), this time hanging down for the draw. The time she got it first try but still, 2 pokes and lots of searching with needle in arm left me certain I will not be returning to that lab again. I’ll be driving 30 minutes away a to go to Marybridge children’s hospital in the future. What a crummy experience :(
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Dr. Archer Atkins
July 13th, 2016 at 10:27 am
Oh no, that sounds awful! So sorry for his bad first experience. Hopefully the next time will go much smoother!
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Margaret
July 30th, 2016 at 7:22 am
Thank you so much for this. I followed all your advice, and it worked great for my 4 year old- not a tear or a whimper. Not mentioning the needle or stick at all is excellent advice. Thank you !!
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Dr. Archer Atkins
October 14th, 2016 at 8:36 pm
Margaret, that is great to hear! Glad it helped.
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ilan
October 11th, 2016 at 12:58 am
Thank you very much!
Unfortunately reading this comes after a traumatic experience both for me and my child (3 yo).
I would however mention that if the toddler comes without a diaper, it could be wise to bring an extra pair of pants for the parent, if anything goes wrong…
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Dr. Archer Atkins
October 14th, 2016 at 8:37 pm
Ilan, so sorry things didn’t go well. At least now you’ll know how to go about it next time around!
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Jelsson Portillo
December 18th, 2017 at 3:27 pm
I took my 2 year old daughter and they can’t seem too drain blood it’s the 3 clinic I had thee same problem with please helpp!?
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Heike
July 6th, 2018 at 6:00 am
Thank you for this!!! I realised after reading this that i just need to cut myself out actually and all will be well! I’m a very anxious person and so i asked my hubby to take our 4yo daughter and she called me before hand (they got a plaster from the nurse at the lab to numb the area and then wondered around for 45minutes) and i didnt ask about the shot, she mentioned the nurse n drawing blood and an ice cream afterwards and i asked about the ice cream LOL. Not long after she called again and told me she had a shot with a needle and that she was brave and that now they are going for an ice cream and i said wow thats exciting and asked about the ice cream some more and that was that! Had i gone however i think it would have gone the other way… In our hearts i think we know as per history n i felt i owed her a better first experience than i had as a kid of the same age… Not saying it was my mom’s fault… But some equations are just predictable and taking me out of this one and seopping for dad worked for us. All the best everbody!
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